This bit of advice may seem like common sense but I’m mentioning it all the same. Get mentally prepared
The old saying that “sex is all in the mind” really is true, particularly for bottoming. The reason I did it was because I thought “that’s what gay men do.” I was totally wrong.
Here are some more thoughts to reflect upon:
Some people are born natural tops.
By properly preparing yourself in advance (mentally and physically) you’ll place yourself in the best position for enjoyment.
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Unlike straight people, gay people cannot freely express their sexuality at such an adolescent age.
Thoroughly wash anything that comes in contact with your asshole, including hands, penis or sex toys.
The tissues inside the anus are very sensitive. They are more sensitive than the ones outside. If you want to use a little lube, that’s ok (see point#4). Take away every worry from your mind.
All of these suggestions are based on my personal experiences, which you’re going to read about as we continue along the way.
Hopefully, you will walk away from this page feeling more knowledgeable and empowered. It is hard to come out of the closet and it also hard to cum with a fellow man—gays throughout the years have thought and practiced the most creative and innovative ways to have sex and have penetration.
If you are going to have anal sex, use a silicone based lubricant. Is it because you think it’s a must in order to be gay?
One of my first bottoming experiences was painful because I tried to ride a guy that was way too large. Sex is not as perfect as the porn or Onlyfans boys you might have watched.
It also helps to seat on your partner; you can control the penetration that way; I enjoy sex better that way; you should try it.
Take it slow. It is totally fine to take your time with gay anal sex.
Contracting your anus or pushing outwards after your partner inserts his penis helps. They are all kind of innocent and naive, a tad bit sensitive and will react to every move but the first pleasurable sex act they would ever feel—is what you will on the screen.
I encourage you to read this article on anal sex and your digestive system.
Second, if you have gastrointestinal issues, preparation becomes even more important. You can learn more about the benefits of these types of helpers by reading a guide on playing with giants!
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Checking in on your partner can be very sexy.
Poop is inevitable. You should accept that there will likely be poop involved. You could train your butt to get used to the sensation of penetration as well.
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The first thing you need to know is that you are important.
You may want to get f*cked right away but taking a few extra moments to have him slip one on can avoids the drama of health problems down the road.
If you do decide to use a condom, one of the best ones you can get for anal is Lifestyle’s Sensitive Pre-Lubricated brand. It would be unfair not to add the fact that bottoming, if done wrongly, can be painful and risky, but sex, in general, can be quite messy, so that should not discourage you at all.
It helps with safe penetration and reduces tears or bruises. If you decide it’s not for you, that’s OK
Many guys try to make themselves become bottoms when in fact, they’re just not wired that way. Some people bookmark this to their browser for quick reference. Even after douching and generously cleaning that place up, there is a possibility of poop showing its ugly face.