Old gay men

Invite nuance. But flip that lens and you’ll find something richer.

Way too loud. And yes, too different. A multigenerational cast doesn’t just add realism—it adds depth. Wrote poems. They didn’t just walk, so you could run—they marched. Live it.

Older Gays Matter

A blog for writers, readers, and anyone who forgot there was a world before TikTok—and stories before swipe-ups.
By Gunther Allen

🌀 “You’ll Be One Someday”

Let’s start here—because it’s true—Older Gays Matter.

Those who wish to work as mentors and elders have to keep one eye on the youth—and another on conditions in the village.”

—Michael Meade, Elder and Storyteller

WE ARE A GROUP OF GAY MEN, more or less fifty-five or older, who have assembled to support each other in becoming gay elders.

Want to write layered, queer-centered fiction with depth and heart? You tell the truth.

A good story entertains; however, a great one bridges generations.

Why Some of Us Pull Away—and Why We Shouldn’t

Let’s name it: some younger men feel judged. Literally.

🕶️ “Don’t Ghost the Gay Elders”

Too often, older gay men become invisible—especially in media, in bars, and yes, even in fiction.

Chances are, you’ll leave with more than just a story. Let a 23-year-old find an unlikely friendship that changes everything.

It’s all about perspective—and your readers will feel the difference.

They’ve Seen It All—and Still Show Up

The older gay generation didn’t grow up in a time of affirming TV shows and rainbow capitalism.

If you ignore older queer people, others will too.

But if you highlight them? We come from a wide range of backgrounds and are united in our primary purpose of being useful to younger gay men and of service to the gay and larger community.

A healthy and thriving community honors ancestors, needs elders, depends on adults and invites youth.

Ask someone who’s felt them.

You don’t have to be old to write older. Writers often spotlight youth, forgetting the rich textures older voices bring. Too soft. Let two men in their sixties fall in love. They have it.