How to be a good gay bottom

In these cases, preparation and training – like with the dilation kit or cone from his sexual wellness brand Future Method – can help.

There can also be other causes.

Use plenty of lube and tops, if you’re reading – trim your fingernails.

Positions

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Some positions can be easier if it’s your first time bottoming or you find it uncomfortable.

The toy you use will depend on how experienced you are and what your body is used to. We provide 7 essential tips to empower individuals with knowledge and enhance their experiences.

1. Without it, you can miss the warning signs and end up hurting yourself.

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What if it’s not working?

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Sometimes bottoming just doesn’t work.

Fibre, anal training and techniques like douching can all play a part. That said, we still recommend doing your preparations 30 to 60 minutes ahead of time, in case you experience any excess gas or residual solution that may take a little longer to come out.

 

Myth #3: The best way to clean is to use a store-bought enema.

Fact: Over-the-counter enemas do help with the occasional bout of constipation.

Fight the urge to clench

Your natural response will be to clench but suppressing the reflex to tighten up is crucial.

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What to do if it hurts
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Pain can sometimes happen. If so, you’re ready to go. In other words, feeling comfortable and safe with a partner can help improve things.
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If the pain is short-lived (as in, it goes away after your partner pulls out) then it’s probably ok.

It’s a signal from your body to slow down, use more lube or stop altogether.

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Lube

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When it comes to lube for anal sex, more is more. No matter how you identify, we’re here to help you on your bottoming journey.

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Preparing to bottom

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Successful bottoming doesn’t start in the bedroom.

The sigmoid colon sits above the part of your butt you use when intimate. The beauty of queer sex is how many options we have. When you remove it, check and see if it comes out clean. This can cause the liquid to travel all the way up into the sigmoid colon, which is where poop is stored (and much further than any D can hit).

Ultimately, you are cleaning out way more than is necessary.

They do this by numbing the area. And it doesn’t have to mean the end of sex.

Dr. Evan Goldstein, a renowned bottoming expert, says pain can be caused by the muscle or skin of the area being too tight.