Gay mutual mastrubation

Practicing control, pacing, and non-penetrative pleasure can improve your stamina. Here’s what men gain from this connection:

• Reduced performance pressure: There’s less pressure compared to penetrative sex, making it easier to relax.

• Improved communication: You learn how to express what feels good — a valuable skill for all sexual relationships.

• Greater sexual self-awareness: Exploring touch with another man can reveal new pleasure zones and rhythms.

• Emotional intimacy: Many report a sense of trust, safety, and closeness.

• Safe sex: No risk of STIs or pregnancy from this act alone.

Plus, mutual masturbation often becomes a space where men talk about their desires, vulnerabilities, and experiences — something that many male friendships rarely allow.

Whether you're exploring your body or building trust with a partner, it’s a valuable part of a healthy sexual toolkit.

Charlie, a 28-year-old gay man, says, “I remember, even then, thinking about what this meant for my sexuality but was quick to ‘reassure myself’ that there was no way my friend was gay, so doing that didn’t mean that I was gay either.”

Here, Jason, Charlie and four other men tell us about a time they masturbated – or nearly masturbated – with their teenage friends.

My cousins and I started jerking off around ten, well before we could cum, but it still felt amazing – it was just boys enjoying their favourite toys together.

I had my first circle jerk in freshman year with a bunch of my teammates after cheerleading practice. I remember one of them said something like, “So we just jerk off here…?” We laughed and decided that each one should go to a different room, get hard, and then come back to compare.

We somehow decided that we’d masturbate, then we simply removed our underwear under the covers and had a go at ourselves individually. If you’re in a long-term relationship, for example, mutual masturbation can be a much-needed change in your sexual routine to further enhance connection and intimacy with your partner.

It’s akin to riding a mechanical bull, except with a thrusting phallus and no risk of being bucked. Should I moan with pleasure, laugh, or should I stay silent? But here’s the truth:

• It’s not ‘less manly’ to enjoy non-penetrative intimacy.

• It doesn’t automatically define your sexual orientation.

• It’s not weird, wrong, or perverted.

It’s a shared, healthy, intimate act — and it deserves open, shame-free conversation.

The more we normalize male sexual exploration in all forms, the healthier our collective understanding of sex becomes.

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“Masturbating in front of someone you trust is like showing them who you are when no one’s watching. One morning I woke up with an erection and curiously asked my friends if they’d ever touched their penises when they got hard and whether it felt good for them, too. You can (and should) do whatever feels good when it comes to mutual masturbation, but if you need some inspiration, look no further.

We kept sleeping at each other’s places but we stopped doing it – maybe because we started dating, or talking less about sex, or maybe by the end of puberty we were less horny. Do you remember the feverish days of whacking it up and down in a sleeping bag a few yards away from your best buddy? In long-term relationships, that kind of presence can feel like rediscovery,” Lust explains.

I remember it being exciting, nerve-wracking and awkward. It's natural, safe, and can strengthen emotional connection and self-awareness.

When approached with consent, communication, and care, mutual masturbation between men can be a fulfilling part of a broader sexual wellness journey.

So ditch the shame, embrace the conversation, and explore with confidence.

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