First time bottom gay

Some even like to define themselves as a “power bottom” – a bottom who calls the shots.

When you get into the swing of it, bottoming can feel both subtly subversive – take that, patriarchy! With this in mind, here’s a guide to bottoming confidently like there’s no tomorrow.

Practice by yourself first

It’s incredibly important to get to know your own body before trusting someone else to enter it.

If it’s your first time bottoming it may hurt. The initial insertion is one of the most challenging aspects of bottoming.

‍

What to do if it hurts
‍

Pain can sometimes happen. If you can regulate your breathing while it’s happening and fully tune into your own body and trust yourself in the process, you’ll be on the right track.

Even with best diet and strictest method some matter will still be there.

Now you and your partner find yourselves in the bedroom. wetter) for longer are best for anal sex.

Women can also receive pleasure as the stimulation of the anus is close to vagina. This is because these muscles are used to relaxing to let things out (so you've got to trick them). When using a dildo or butt plugs make sure to use lubricant. And if you take a load in your ass, remember that what goes up must come down – but maybe not until the next day.

“It’s likely your first time will be awkward and you may feel weird afterwards,” Howley adds.

Have your partner continue to play around your anus by either the insertion of finger or toys, Breathing helps the relaxing of the anal muscles and slows the constriction on blood flow, the foreplay gets the anal muscle more relaxed and used to having things inserted.

An easy and comfortable position to be in is on your side. These can contribute to anal pain.

It is important that if this happens to thoroughly wash out the area with soap and water. But you can also use lube applicators to put lube inside you and save time later. It keeps things moving smoothly and can help prevent pain or discomfort. If you find yourself being fearful, upset, irritate, or uncomfortable then STOP. Sometimes, it might be both.

“When you’re aroused, your body relaxes, and you can start taking whatever it is that you’re putting inside of you.”

Learn about douching

There’s no need to get squeamish about douching; it’s just rinsing out your anus with water to clean it. Only go up in size when you feel ready. Bottoming is usually used with in the gay men’s community, but it can be applied to any individual who is the receiver.